Self-esteem is a term used to describe a person’s general opinion of themselves and their worth. It’s how much you value and love yourself and it includes your opinions of your abilities, beliefs, emotions, and behaviours. Good Self Esteem People with good self esteem like their physical appearance, their personality, they feel proud of their accomplishments and see good in themselves. They set high expectations for themselves because they believe in themselves. To add, they feel confident that those around them like them, they accept their flaws, and they are confident in their abilities and who they are. If you have good self esteem, you’re comfortable in your own skin and you're proud of who you are and what you’re doing in life. Of course, that doesn’t mean you’re perfect or you don't make mistakes. It just means that when those mistakes happen, you don’t feel as though your worth is diminished or you’re less deserving of happiness; it just means you need to find a new solution. Low Self Esteem Those with low self-esteem may think that they are not “good enough” or at least as good as others. They are harder on themselves than they are on others and they dislike who they are as a person or their place in the world. They're most likely overly critical of their appearance, behaviours, and abilities which makes them second guess themselves a lot. What’s more, they probably don’t feel accepted or like other people want to spend time with them; they feel like a burden or a bother. People with low self-esteem may struggle with impostor syndrome and doubt whether they’re as good or skilled as other people think they are. They feel like a stranger in their own skin and often question their worthiness or if they deserve love and happiness. Final Thoughts Self-esteem is a complicated and difficult thing and it fluctuates quite a bit especially when you’re in your adolescent phase and you’re trying to fit in while being yourself. Even the most confident people may struggle with their own self-worth because at the end of the day we are coming to terms with the fact that we are all humans. We are fallible creatures and we will make mistakes or have moments of panic and doubt but that doesn’t diminish our worth or take away from how brilliant and amazing we are. However, low self-esteem can hold us back from achieving our true potential and take away our happiness so I hope this website will help you feel more confident and help to improve your self-esteem.
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With Yourself If you have a healthy relationship with yourself then you most likely have good self-esteem. You are confident and you trust yourself and your abilities. Good self-esteem means that you're comfortable in your own skin and you are firm in your beliefs and opinions. You know your worth and you won’t allow yourself to be treated as less than because you know you deserve respect. If you have good self-esteem then you are willing to problem solve and work through problems without thinking that you are not worthy or you deserve pain. Some examples of this include: trying out for a sports team because you have worked hard, you aim high and you have a growth mindset, and you post photos of yourself online because you like the way you look. With Others Good self-esteem is essential in a relationship because a healthy relationship requires trust and honesty. If you are confident in who you are and what you do then you will trust that your partner won’t cheat on you, betray you, or hurt you in any way. You will be honest with your feelings and insecurities because you don’t think that the other person will take advantage of you and you are comfortable in who you are so you don’t think it’ll hurt you. To add, if you're in a healthy relationship, your partner will boost your self-esteem and make you feel confident and happy in who you are because you are both uplifting each other and you want the other person to succeed. Good self-esteem will create a positive cycle where you are both confident in yourselves and your relationship so you work hard on yourselves and your relationship and it's a constant cycle. Also, if you have good self-esteem, you will be a more positive and nice person so people will be drawn to your kindness and love which will help you create strong connections. Examples of Good Self-Esteem:
With Yourself If you have low self-esteem you will have a really bad relationship with yourself because you are overly critical of yourself and your abilities. You will see yourself as less than, unworthy, and unlovable. You will question what you can do in life and may have low expectations for yourself. This could lead to depression, anxiety, and even self-harm because you don't care about yourself. And, because you always think you'll fail, you won't pursue your dreams which will only further feelings of self-hatred. To add, those with low self-esteem may not post on social media because they compare themselves to others and see themselves as not good enough. They also will feel ashamed in their own skin and will try to hide from the world. With Others This is really bad because if you’re insecure about everything then you will assume that other people view you the same negative way you view yourself. If you think you’re unlovable then you will think that your partner or those around you also think the same thing and will doubt if they are faithful to you. The relationship will be very toxic because you are both projecting your own insecurities and jealousy on each other and you don't trust that the other person has your best interest at heart or that they care about you at all. This will make the relationship very abusive. If you are in an unhealthy relationship then this is a culture that will occur with both parties trying to bring the other down because they think that the other person will leave them if they are confident and happy. Low self-esteem will lead to a lot of unhappiness and fights in the relationship because the smallest things will trigger insecurities and create doubt. Lastly, low self-esteem is contagious so you will not have many friends which will only further your feelings of low self-esteem. Examples of Low Self-Esteem:
Below I've listed various tips that will help you to improve your self-esteem because if you make a point to take care of yourself and work on who you are, then you will feel more confident and happy. - talk to close friends and family - try yoga - have a consistent exercise routine - take a social media break - try some sort of creative stimulation like painting - watch a show or movie that makes you smile - read a book - have a self-care night (use a face mask, take a bath) - Do a power pose in the mirror (https://youtu.be/Ks-_Mh1QhMc) - keep a journal - surround yourself with people who uplift you - try a new activity each day (for example plant a rose one day and curl your hair the next) - clean your room; you are a product of your environment and cleaning your room will aid your relationship with yourself because you're holding yourself accountable - Here's a guided meditation that will help you unwind and process feelings of insecurity https://youtu.be/Evgx9yX2Vw8 Self-esteem is not set in stone, I promise that if you work at it you will one day look in the mirror and treasure who you are; flaws and all. Well, that's it for this blog entry! I've shared with you what self-esteem is as well as my top tips for helping you to improve your self-esteem and be proud of the skin you’re in. Remember these aren’t magic, they’re habits that are going to take time and they won’t immediately fix all of your problems. But, they are tools that you can use to improve your life. And lastly, if there’s one thing you take from this blog post; just know that your worth isn’t dependent on what others think of you or what your accomplishments may be. You are always worthy and deserving of love, kindness, and affection. What’s more, every version of you is worthy; not just that perfect unattainable version of yourself that you want to be. You’re worthy just the way you are. |